It’s time to #RetireTheChant

Together THFC

It’s the start of the season, the sun is shining and things are looking good; let’s not tarnish it with homophobic chanting on Sunday. 

And yes, the ‘rent boy’ chant is homophobic—if it wasn’t, nobody would bother. It’s busted out precisely to be insulting and hateful, and when the affected community tells you it’s homophobic and explains the impact, please hear us (see Lee’s story).  It’s also exposing a new generation of young fans to words and terms that provoke questions they shouldn’t have to ask.

The chant has gained prevalence the last couple of seasons and while we imagine that most fans don’t sing this with intent to make LGBTQ+ fans feel uncomfortable, ostracised or demeaned, the impact it has on us shouldn’t be underestimated. The term has been used over many years to victimise young gay men; it’s distressing to hear it chanted when Chelsea play. We hope we don’t hear it on Sunday.

We’re Spurs, we should be better.

We know from our work with our great Club that they are completely supportive of the Proud Lilywhites and our global LGBTQ+ fan base.  They are committed to ensuring that following our team is safe and inclusive for all fans and won’t tolerate any form of discriminatory behaviour. We’re proud to be part of a club that fights all forms of discrimination – on and off the pitch, and the support we get from many fellow fans echoes this.

It’s time to retire the chant.

We all love this game and we want to win matches and trophies, but we want to do it with style. Homophobic language, when unchallenged, can have real-life consequences: together, we have to be the change we want to see. Making change, fan by fan if necessary, is why we’re here and we won’t rest until we’ve done it.

Discrimination and abuse have no place in our game. Should you hear or experience anything you consider to be unacceptable, or that goes against the Spurs Respects ethos you can report it via the text service – to 88777 or 07894 937793 with Stand, Block, Row and Seat details, as well as the offender and the incident. After the match incidents can be reported to reporthate@chelseafc.com and supporterservices@tottenhamhotspur.com. You can also use the Kick it Out app and we would also appreciate it if you could contact us: info@proudlilywhites.uk so that we can continue to work with the Club to eradicate homophobia in all its forms..

We all want the team to do well, all together, as Spurs fans. COYS!

The Proud Lilywhites, August 2022

Lee’s Story

Lee Johnson is co-chair of the Proud Lilywhites. Here is his story, in his own words

“I personally had my whole involvement in football flipped on its head by that chant at a match.

When I was a teenager, learning to accept my sexuality (gay), I was a regular visitor to the old White Hart Lane to watch Spurs. I’d go to matches with friends, travelling the 1.5-hour journey down to London. We would soak up the atmosphere, join in with the singing and chants, and on rare occasions celebrate in the stadium after good result (life as a Spurs fan!). Football was a big part of my life. I even worked at my local football ground in the clubhouse for 6 years.

It was one match, at Spurs – we were at home against Chelsea, when everything changed for me.

During the match, the section of the crowd I was in started singing the ‘Chelsea Rent Boys’ chant. I hadn’t heard this before at a match and couldn’t believe what I was hearing. In that moment I felt completely isolated and shocked that such a term was being openly used, in the context of sport too. I did not think it was possible to feel so excluded in my home stadium. I have been called a Rent Boy before, at school by a bully as a derogatory term about my sexuality, and to hear this used in our stadium really knocked me for 6. At school, the pupil that used the term was suspended. But, in a football stadium it was being cheered and sung as if it was a celebration.

I felt sick and asked my friend why they were singing such a vile chant. He then explained the context and how it had become a common thing that happened against Chelsea –ie fans would sing this chant, and then physically or verbally assault a ‘Chelsea rent boy’ after the match. Even as a Spurs fan, I felt physically sick. What if I got mistaken for a Chelsea fan, and got attacked after the match? If people knew I was gay, would they verbally assault me too? I wasn’t wearing a Spurs shirt so how would they know? I told my friend I was leaving the match, and he tried to play it down as ‘banter’. I felt, in that moment that I couldn’t explain to my friend why I was so particularly affected by this, as I was not out to him at the time. I went home within the first 10mins of a game for the first time in my life. I had to tell my friend I was feeling too sick to be at a match, but it was because I, as a gay man, felt unsafe. It ended up being the last time I would ever step foot in the old White Hart Lane stadium. I stopped attending matches for fear of being gay, or outed and not accepted by fellow fans, or my club. I felt like football didn’t support me as a member of the LGBTQ+ community. If football could allow chants like this, then how on earth can they say they’re inclusive and support diversity and the LGBTQ+ community?

I ended up leaving my job too, as I couldn’t bear to be around the sport anymore. My whole view on football was completely tarnished; the sport I loved more than anything else didn’t accept me for who I was. I missed the Finale at WHL—an event that was supposed to be a celebration of all Spurs fans coming together to remember the good days in the stadium—but I couldn’t remember them—all I remembered was feeling isolated, excluded, and unsafe.

It wasn’t until I came across a picture in 2018 when I noticed a rainbow banner with a Spurs logo on that I realised Spurs had their own LGBTQ+ fan group – the Proud Lilywhites. After researching them and getting in touch, I met them before a match. Spurs were playing at Wembley by this point. It was through meeting them that I felt there was a safe space in Spurs for me, and a way for me to get back to going to matches again. And sure, enough I did! I’m now a Season ticket holder and Co-chair of the Proud Lilywhites, it is important to me that other fans don’t feel excluded from going to matches the same way I did. The only reason I felt excluded and not welcome was because of that chant – and still to this day whenever I hear it, it drudges up so many horrible memories. It also makes me upset that I didn’t get a chance to be at that final match for Spurs in their old ground. Every time I hear someone mention it, it still causes me pain that I didn’t go. But again, I felt so unsafe and excluded because of that chant.

The fact that this chant is still ‘allowed’ in the sport astonishes me, and the fact it is not described as homophobic is an insult to us all. It completely invalidates my experiences in football to say that it is not homophobic, but just ‘banter’. I wouldn’t have been as affected by it had I been straight. I wouldn’t have missed 6 years of football because of that chant if I were straight. I wouldn’t have felt unsafe at matches because of that chant if I were straight. It is homophobic, and it is humiliating to hear it.

Thank you for taking the time to read this. Although I’m just another fan, and this just an experience to you, to me this was my whole life changing for the worse. And I know I’m not the only one.”

Retire the chant

Together THFC

Like all Spurs fans, we’re looking forward to a cup semi-final under the lights. However, unlike all other Spurs fans, we’re also approaching the game with an impending fear of dread at the prospect of hearing the homophobic ‘Chelsea Rent Boy’ chant. 

Let’s not kid ourselves that the ‘rent boy’ chant is somehow not homophobic.  If it wasn’t, it wouldn’t be sung, and as with antisemitic and racist chants and noises – they’re sung precisely to be insulting and hateful. And when the affected community tells you it’s homophobic and explains the impact, please hear us (see Lee’s story below).  It’s also exposing a new generation of young fans to words and terms that provoke questions they shouldn’t have to ask.

The chant has been heard at many grounds this season and whilst we are certain that most fans don’t sing this with any intent to make LGBTQ+ fans, feel uncomfortable, ostracised, or demeaned, the impact it has on us shouldn’t be underestimated as the term has been used over many years to victimise young gay men; it’s distressing to hear it chanted when Chelsea play. We hope we won’t hear it tonight.

We’re Spurs and should be better.

We know from our work with our great Club that they are completely supportive of the Proud Lilywhites and our global LGBTQ+ fan base.  They are committed to ensuring our stadium is a safe and inclusive environment for all fans and won’t tolerate any form of discriminatory behaviour. We’re proud to be part of a club that fights all forms of discrimination – on and off the pitch, and the support we get from many fellow fans echoes this.

It’s time to retire the chant.

We all love this game and we want to win matches and trophies, but we want to do it with style. Homophobic language, when unchallenged, can have real-life consequences: together, we have to be the change we want to see. Making change, fan by fan if necessary, is why we’re here and we won’t rest until we’ve done it.

Discrimination and abuse have no place in our game. Should you hear or experience anything you consider to be unacceptable, or that goes against the Spurs Respects ethos you can report it to the Club via the text service on 07537 404821, please include your location (Block/Row/Seat) and the location of the offence (Block/Row/Seat) and include HPH for homophobic chanting. You can also use the Kick it Out app and we would also appreciate it if you could contact us: info@proudlilywhites.uk so that we can continue to work with the Club to eradicate homophobia in our amazing home.

We all want the team to do well and support them, all together, as Spurs fans. COYS!

The Proud Lilywhites, January 2022  

Proud Lilywhites’ (almost) end of season awards

During our most recent “Talking Tottenham on a Wednesday night”, members had the opportunity to vote for their Players and Goals of the season so far – both for the men’s and women’s teams.

Although the seasons for both teams are currently on hold due to Covid-19, these awards serve to reflect on the hard work and scintillating performances from these players so far this season.

All 4 categories generated hot debate and the competition was strong! Proud Lilywhites members voted and these were the results…

All of the category winners have sent in a special video message for our members to watch. Click the links below to view each player’s video:

Heung-Min Son: https://twitter.com/SpursLGBT/status/1266360658054066176?s=20

Rianna Dean: https://twitter.com/SpursLGBT/status/1263517727727091718?s=20

Ash Neville: https://twitter.com/SpursLGBT/status/1263517669552205825?s=20

We wish all our players the best of luck and a very safe return to the pitch soon

COYS

Memories of a magical night in Amsterdam – By Chris Paouros

It was a rollercoaster of a day and a night. There were bumps, hits, highs and lows. I won’t be able to do it justice but wanted to set out the highlights I remember, one year on, of how those magical 24 hours unfolded—from 3pm on 8 May 2019. COYS!

A cafe that would only serve us pasta with cheese as they were ‘saving’ the food on the menu for the Ajax fans that had booked tables later to watch the game.

Being cramped on the metro surrounded by very tall, blond Ajax fans singing ‘Donnie Van der Beek, van der Beek, Donnie van der Beek’ for the whole journey and them laughing at me when I said “we’re going to do it”.

Arriving at the ground and being kettled by police as bottles were thrown.

Not caring that we were so high up, because we were here, in the Amsterdam Arena, albeit 1-0 down from the first leg in the SEMI FINAL OF THE CHAMPIONS LEAGUE.

Our co-chair Chris arriving at the stadium with fellow Proud Lilywhites member Phillip

Feeling despondent at half-time, but we were still here, and stranger things had happened, but some of our fellow Spurs fans were FUMING. Fuming that the lack of investment had meant we might not be able to compete, fuming that we had to start the game without a recognised striker, fuming that years of focus on balancing the books meant we might not make it. 

Spending the last ten minutes of the game talking to the woman next to me about her job as a dog groomer and also discussing that we felt some pride in our team bringing it back to 2-2; we could go home with our heads held high

OMG! Vertonghen’s header hit the bar, that was it, that was our chance, it never happens for us does it? If only for once it would

And then…

Just when we thought the final whistle was going to blow, a punt from defence, Llorente won the ball.. a sublime flick from Dele and there was Lucas, his left foot shot slipping past the goalkeeper sending us into utter rapture

Jumping, screaming, crying and between it, seeing the entire squad running to the corner of the pitch, our corner of the pitch: “look, Harry Kane can run”; “it’s gone in, I can’t believe it’s gone in!”

It was the Ajax fans despondent now; heads hung; gutted. They’d blown it. No, we’d taken it

And we sang. We stayed in the Amsterdam Arena and sang our hearts out, even from that top tier, the players could feel us and we were all together in our delight. We’d done it, together we’d got Spurs into the CHAMPIONS LEAGUE FINAL.

They had beers, came forward so we could sing ‘their’ song, one by one we lauded and applauded them, they didn’t give up, they believed and now so could we

And then came out the man himself, the man who had instilled that belief into his team and into all of us; dressed in black, calling his coaching team to join him and bowing down to them, to us, to his team. Mauricio Pochettino.

He cried his tears of joy and we felt every one, I joined him weeping. After 40 odd years of supporting Spurs I’d never felt this and it was incredible

All the way home we sang “watching Tottenham on a Wednesday night, you play Thursday cos you’re f*****g shite”; it was only us on the Metro and we were buzzing!

And then, the trains were no longer running, we couldn’t get back, but we didn’t care! We’d work it out, we’d won!

We finally made it to the hotel and almost like we’d ordered it, Dutch TV was replaying the game and we arrived just in time to watch the second half, with 6 other Spurs fans and we were all LOVING IT!

We tried to go to bed at around 4am and spent the next hour watching the players broadcast live on Insta and messaging each other from adjacent rooms. Sleep? No chance, it was TOO EXCITING!

Chris & Phillip still could not believe what they had just seen

So to the train home.. and a message from the BBC asking if I’d talk to the lunchtime news about how it felt being a Spurs fan today. Would I? OF COURSE! This was the day, the day we could really celebrate as Spurs fans. So I stood in a square in Brussels and was ‘live’ on TV. I couldn’t contain my joy, I was crackling with excitement, like we all were.

What a 24 hours

COYS

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